What Keeps Happening in Your Relationship

You may already know something isn't working. Maybe you keep having the same argument, small problems become big fights, one of you shuts down, you no longer feel like you matter, or something has happened that damaged trust.

The harder question is understanding what pattern keeps bringing you back here.

Take the free UNpsych Relationship Patterns Assessment to identify the relationship pattern that may be most important for you to explore right now..

Start Your 90-Day Relationship Experiment

Most couples already know what they argue about. What is often harder to recognize is the pattern underneath those arguments and why the same reactions keep happening again.

The 90-Day UNpsych Relationship Experiment is designed to help you begin there. We are offering you a structured process on where to start, the experiment helps you identify the relationship pattern that may deserve your attention first.

Begin with the free UNpsych Relationship Patterns Assessment above. Your results will point you toward one of five relationship pathways: Same Argument Again, Small Issues Big Fights, Pursuing & Shutting Down, Do I Matter?, or Trust After Hurt.

Once you identify your strongest pattern, you will enter that relationship door and receive a small collection of carefully selected resources to help you UNcover what keeps happening, UNderstand what may be underneath it, UNlearn reactions that keep the pattern going, and Become more intentional about what happens next.

You are not trying to fix your entire relationship at once. For the next 90 days, you are trying something much simpler:

Understand one important pattern. Practice responding to it differently. Pay attention to what begins to change.

Finished the Assessment?

Now Enter Your Relationship Door

Your assessment has given you a place to begin. Look at your five scores and identify the pattern with the highest score. If two patterns are close, begin with the one that feels most important in your relationship right now.

Your next step is to enter the relationship door that matches your result. Each door contains a carefully selected article, video, and practical exercise to help you understand that pattern and begin experimenting with a different response.

Now, Choose Your Relationship Door

Start with one pattern. Learn what is underneath it. Try something different. Pay attention to what begins to change.